My honeymoon was plagued by thoughts of when I would get
hit. It was always in the back of my mind: Will today be the day my life gets
ruined? I thought about my family and everyone the scandal would affect — my
mom, who teaches classes about Catholicism to kids, and the three boys I had
become a stepmother to when I married Dwyane. My husband, meanwhile, would
always have to wonder who had seen intimate photos of me that only he was
supposed to see.
The hit came three weeks later. I was on the final night of
a beach retreat with Dwyane and the kids in Turks and Caicos. We had just given
the boys a big lecture on how to protect themselves online, telling them to be
careful what they post and what they say. Friends contacted me with the news: A
photo of me had surfaced online. I clicked on the link and felt a flicker of
relief: The picture was not very revealing — my body was covered. It was a
flirtatious shot I had sent to Dwyane three years ago. I had zapped it to him
and then told him to delete it right away, as he has a habit of losing phones.
He deleted it, and so did I.
I knew there would be more to come. I wondered how a photo
that was shot and deleted three years ago could be found. Sure enough, later
that night, more pictures started popping up, one after another. All of them
had been shot and deleted years ago. Yet there they were, online for the world
to see. I felt extreme anxiety, a complete loss of control. I suddenly
understood that deleting things means nothing. You think it's gone? It's not.
What is the point of even including a delete function on a phone if it doesn't
really delete? I had deleted the photos from my phone, but apparently they had
remained on some server somewhere, unbeknownst to me, where hackers could find
them.
Gabrielle Union has written an open letter expressing her
feelings leading up to her most intimate and private photos flooding the
Internet. After falling victim to the Apple iCloud hacker, who leaked photos of
celebs actress Gabrielle Union is speaking out inside the new issue of
Cosmopolitan mag, Gabby reflects on how she feared that the nude pictures she had
sent to her husband/Miami Heat superstar Dwyane Wade (and since deleted years
ago) would be leaked while she was suppose to be enjoying the happiest days of
her life.
After the pics leaked she sprung into action, desperately
trying to have them removed. So much so, she got the FBI involved. She said,
I called my reps and attorneys, pleading, "Get the
photos taken down." They said it takes time — the shots were spreading
fast, to some 50 sites within the first few hours. Nude pictures of other
celebrities were appearing in this second wave too, including Rihanna and a new
round of Jennifer Lawrence shots. I thought, this is a targeted attack, a hate
crime against women. Photos of my friend Meagan Good showed up as well, and
that really hurt — she's like my little sister. We had become close while
filming Deliver Us From Eva. She's married to a pastor. I wanted to protect her
from the inevitable character assassination. She was the target of a crime and
did not deserve to be attacked.
I felt an urgent need to speak out — I didn't see silence as
an option, and my inner circle supported me. I started working on a statement
the night my photos surfaced. I've been a longtime advocate for women and
girls, and a few years ago, President Obama named me to the National Advisory
Committee on Violence Against Women. I didn't like the public perception of
this scandal — that we were just a bunch of narcissistic, sexually deviant
celebrities who got what we deserved for being dumb. No one deserves to have a
private moment stolen, whether it's a photo, text, or email. Everyone has
intimate parts of their life they don't want the public to see.
My lawyers started sending "cease and desist"
letters to sites that were running the stolen photos. Legal bills began rolling
in. Every time the lawyers managed to remove photos from one site, the shots
popped up on another. People simply take screen grabs and pass them around.
It's an insane battle. I also started working with the authorities to try to
find the culprits. We still don't know how more than 100 women were hacked in
this crime. There are a lot of theories. But I do know that you should change
your passwords often, make them complex and varied, and sign up for two-step
verification on your accounts.
She then struggled with being seen in public after being
embarrassed that her intimate photos, which were strictly for her husband, had
made their way around the world via the Internet. To her surprise, fans
supported her during one of her most trying times.
The next morning, I didn't want to leave my hotel room. I
just wanted to hide. I had a wave of fear, thinking everyone had seen me naked.
Then I thought, wait a minute, to hide is to act like a guilty person. I hadn't
done anything wrong. I went downstairs with my family and had breakfast. I ate
some amazing bacon. I braced myself for battle.
We packed up for our trip home, and I prepared myself for
crude remarks and rude glances. I had to fly through Miami on my way to Los
Angeles for work. What I found surprised me. People in the Miami airport know
me since I live in the city, and they said things like "Stay strong,
girl!" In LA, the photographers were waiting, but not to attack: They
actually high-fived me. "We're on Team Gab," they said. They said the
hacking was wrong. When the paparazzi tell you something is bad, you know it's
really bad. Dwyane and I also had to explain the scandal to the boys, two of
whom are in their teens. We told them the photos were private pictures between
the two of us, photos we had deleted, and that criminals had found them anyway.
But here’s how she’s handling it now:
Here's the way I choose to look at it: Bad things happen to
people every day. It's what we do with them that counts. If someone betrays
your trust, such as a former boyfriend who posts photos of you online, you
might feel like you're alone on an island. You're not. Talk to people who care
for you. Just keep going. Whatever your dreams were before, they still remain.
You might feel like nothing will ever be the same. And that's true — nothing
will be the same. Take that and change things.
READ HER LONG LETTER HERE
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